hey all
for those of you that live alone. how is it? lonely? scary?
i don't know, when i see people on tv and movies that live alone
it seems NORMAL. like your an adult you should live alone.
but when i think of living alone without a roommate i feel
like a loner. but then it's normal for single adults to live alone right?
you can't always live with a friend. i don't know, i guess it depends
on circumstance like if your away for grad school somewhere far
from home and you don't know anyone, you'd have to live alone.
where as if you worked/went to school around home you could live
at home or with friends. so how is the living SOLO life?? any tips?

im starting work in july and my parents want me to buy a 1bdroom or studio in the city since its a buyers market right now. im so used to always having a roommate though. my own place would be very nice...but i think it'll be lonely at night =( dunno what to do

I think it depends on a lot of things. Like how social you are, if you mind being alone for long periods of time. Things like that.

I like people in general, so I got really lonely when I lived by myself. I also hate eating alone and cooking for one (for me it just didn't seem like it was worth all that effort) so I constantly got take-out and stuff. :3 But at the same time, its not like you have a curfew and there's a certain type of freedom that is well ... liberating. You don't have roommates so you definitely won't have to clean up after other people or be in uncomfortable situations when one of you bring home a date or have a party.

But at the same time there is a heckuva lotta chores that suddenly poof out of nowhere. Like cleaning ... everything. :3 But other than that, you can always have people over or go out and play as long as you want and as late as you want.

I didn't mind it as much at night since I piled on blankies and sleep with four pillows and huge stuffed animals. And I usually read until I fall asleep - so I didn't really feel all that lonely sleeping at night.

But what do I know I eventually moved in with my boyfriend.

I don't know the feeling, but I imagine that I'd feel lonely especially at night.
Maybe the first days you'd feel alone but as time goes you won't feel lonely anymore.

While studying abroad, I lived alone in a 3 bedroom apartment. I had a housemate but most of the time, she went back to stay with her parents. It was quite lonely for me. I didn't like it. It's nice to have privacy but I prefer having someone around to talk to. Night time was kinda scary too. All those empty rooms freaked me out!

i've been living alone for almost 2 years now.
up until then, i'd been living at home.

i guess...the good part about being alone is that i can have my own space.
i can go online when i want, i can take a shower at 3am if i want, i can eat what i want (i did that before, but, whatever).

but, it gets lonely.
i am not really a social person, but there's something that is comforting about having someone there.
when i was at home, just having my mom in one room and my sister in another felt normal.

food preparation is also hard.
i'm used to cooking for 3 people. now it's just me, and i tend to buy stuff like grilled salmon, rice and corokke(sp) and eat that for dinner.
sometimes i spice it up with chicken noodle soup or fried rice.

i also have a lot of cleaning to worry about, and no one to remind me that i should be buying toilet paper or aluminium foil on the way home...

yeah..
just got a job..
and have to rent room..
now i'm living alone..
without roomate...
but i have housemate..
seems they are busy..
so i have to live alone..
hikhik...
sometimes it can be bored..
but make sure..
u have many vcd or dvd..
so u'll never be bored...

been living by myself for the last 3 yrs... gotta get use to it, parents aint gonna support you for forever. need to learn how to adapt to things and thrive frm that. its hard at first, cause you dont really know what to expect, but eventually, you'll either be glad that you dont have a roommate or youre really lonely and want a roommate... -.-

I lived alone for about four months about three years ago, and it was by far the most miserable time I've had in the past four years. Granted, I was helped by the fact that two of my friends kept me company, but by the time they were gone, I reverted back to my state of loneliness. It didn't matter if I never went back for nights at a time. When I was home I was just by myself. What an uninteresting life to live! or so that was my train of thought.

The past two years, even though I've had plenty of days and nights when I was alone (Heck, even tonight, I am alone as one of my roommate is flying to Denver, and another is staying at his girlfriend's place), I've always felt I was a part of a household. Don't get me wrong; my roommates and I aren't exactly lovey-dovey (nor do we hold ANY kind of animosity). It is just that I have a sense of belonging. No, my roommates aren't family, but when I see them, I'm a bit happier that they greet me and ask me how my day was. That set of feelings trumps the alternative of not having a soul to come home to.

I live alone, i really can't imagine living with another person unless we have a big place. I like to do my own thing, and keep things organized and clean. Everywhere else i'm surrounded by people - whenever i go out, work, the gym, etc. It's nice for HOME to be that one place where i can hear my own thoughts.

living alone is a hundredfold better than living with a roommate. if you're really social, i can see why you'd get lonely, but being a little lonely is better than listening to roomates whine about their life, loud music, cleaning up after them, and generally getting the sense that they're watching your every move.

if i'm bored, i just go out to coffee shops to read or take a walk or call someone. during the week i'm way too busy to feel bored, so the time i get alone at home is really important.

i lived alone for 2 yrs and it was alright...
i'm the type of person that needs to be around people, so i'd always invite my friends over...
but it's also good that you can get space to yourself

then i moved in with a (former) best friend from college..
it was the WORST 2yrs of my life...
we argued so much & finally i couldn't stand it and i moved out.
sad to say so much s*** has gone down that we don't even talk anymore.

& right now i'm living with another friend from school.
it's better because i get along with her & we give each other lots of space.

I think I know how you feel. I live alone in my room, but I have 3 apartmentmates. Come June, I'll be alone in a studio or 1-bedroom apartment all by myself after I move out of the college apartment. I actually prefer that to living with other people, because I found that sooner or later, there are going to be some clashes with apartmentmates even if for the littlest things. That's just based on my personal experience though...

I really think it depends on how social you are and what type of person you are.
For me...I'm not that social of a person but I sure do get lonely living by myself...at the same time, I want to have the whole place to myself so I can do whatever I want. I live with 1 other person right now and I guess its okay...we're both the quiet type , but I think that will change once her BF comes in 2 days...wonder how that'd be.

I miss living in an environemnt where people are all around...but at the same time, I kind of like the solitude of living by myself because everything is your call. ...but dont know if I can actually afford it since living alone isnt exactly the cheapest here in the bay area.

I LOVE LIVING ALONE. Even though it gets a little lonely sometime, but that's why you go out with your friends or have them come over to your place. It's just so convenient to have a place of your own because you're free to do whatever you want you know? You won't have to be mad at anybody for the chores and etc. Because pretty much if your home is messy, that's pretty much just your fault and you can't blame anybody else for it.

I absolutely love living alone. I don't feel lonely at all because friends come over and hang out all the time and they're really impressed by my apartment! I always get comments like, wow, I didn't know you were so clean and stuff! haha

but besides that, i love living alone for the following reasons:
1. I can play my music and not have anyone say, "Why are you listening to the same thing over and over?" or "Turn it down, i have to study" --> my roommate was a white guy my freshmen year and he always made fun of me when i listened to chinese songs
2. I wake up when I want to wake up --> no more roommates yelling across rooms or people banging around out in the living room and most importantly no more waking up earlier than i have to because my roommate is getting up!
3. I shower when i want to --> I like to take procrasti-showers, but i used to be considerate because the shower was up against a roommate's bedroom!
4. I never have to be self-conscious --> I can wear what i want to wear, change where i want to change, and I never have to look stylish/dress nicely just so i look normal to my roommate
5. I never have to share a restroom ever --> I don't have to worry about another guy's ... hair ... or anything getting over the toilet and I never have to see pee on the seat (pet peeve of mine)
6. I never have to worry about my alarm clock being too loud --> I can let it ring and ring and ring to wake me up instead of worrying that it will wake up my roommate
7. I don't have to worry about my food being eaten by my roommate --> i hated that my ex-roommate used to eat my bread and ham and cheese and eggs and stuff... i hated it because he would never buy it lol
8. I love being able to call this place MINE --> I think it's the best thing to have a personal space where you can reflect and people will leave you alone!
9. I snore --> i don't have to worry about bothering anyone while I sleep
10. I sleep late --> I don't have to go to sleep or move to the living room because my roommate is sleepy or tired
11. No one complains and causes drama --> I'm living by myself! so i don't have to listen to other peoples' problems and get involved in other peoples' problems

The only downside:
1. Too expensive --> I'm shelling out 910 for a one bedroom, one bathroom, one living room apartment! but it has a nice walkin closet and a good kitchen =)
2. Might get lonely --> rarely happens to me because I like to have friends over + i like to cook for them everyday is a fun day at calvin's place :]

Otherwise, LIVING ALONE IS JUST AWESOME!

I love it.

^AHAHAH, yeah, a lot of my friends commented on how clean and simple i lived too. i agree with all of your reasons for living alone. i had a filthy experience with my 4 suitemates in the dorms in the previous year, which is why my parents and i decided it was best for me to live by myself the next year. the expense was crazy, but it was definitely worth it. i hardly got lonely because i enjoyed my privacy so much and my family and friends called me so often that i felt as though they were there with me in spirit. the only other downside for me was insecurity at night.


EXACTLY why i chose to live alone.

i think it is scary. i live alone right now. i really hate it.

I just posted pictures to my apartment! it's linked in my signature

but the thing is, when you live alone, you have to make the best of it i feel like people don't like to live alone because they've been living with others their whole life! just keep being optimistic and it'll work out for you! it might be scary at first, but sooner or later you'll find out there's nothing to be scared of

Well I'd rather live a lone than still with the rents lol. I don't live a lone but I have a friend who does and she doesn't seem to mind it and she isn't a loner or anything like that. I think it'd be nice to be on your own and not have to deal with anyone but yourself. If you're going to be living out on your own for like the first year or so and are worried about that maybe you can live with someone else for a while. Also if you live at an apartment complex I'm sure there's lots of other people feeling the same way and you can try to get to know them.

Is this a serious question?
Is it normal for adults to live alone?
No, because we need to groom and pick each other.

EEkkk, now I'm afraid to live with my to-be-roommate.

I live alone in my apartment in college because my roommate moved out winter quarter. I feel very comfortable living alone. I keep the place clean cause I don't cook much and I mostly stay in more and have full use of the living room space. I like it a lot to be honest, and I hope I don't get another roommate any time soon

ugh.. i hate hate hate living by myself. i'm dying to get an apartmentmate. it's so boring and very very hauntingly lonely in this apartment. all i do when i come home from school is go straight to my laptop and look up stuff. i mean i have friends but they have jobs and lives so they can't always keep me company. and also i heard some weird noises in the bathroom like someone is taking a leak or turning on the faucet .. i can't wait to get out of here and live with a roommate!!!!

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I live alone now. I had places in the past where I had roommates. I prefer living alone because I could always do my own thing at any time. I could invite whoever I want over at any time whenever. And it does make me feel more like an adult because I take care of everything on my own. The only thing I can think of that suck is that it is expensive to be on your own compared to having roomies. I can be paying $200 less in expenses now. I don't really care about the social stuff because once I am out and about I am constantly surrounded by people so the alone time to listen to my own thought is very important to me.

I love living alone. Nothing like having your own space and you don't have to deal with other people stuff and issues. One thing that change is that I'm cooking more often; I didn't do that when I live at home or with my roommates.

I'm wondering how many of the people in the 20+ section eat dinner and browse the internet in front of the PC at the same time?

Usually i eats dinner, watch a movie and look up IMDB or soompi all at the same time. It's useful because I can look up who thought of the crazy ideas in the movie and the backgrounds of the actors and actresses -- plus othe rinteresting topics all at the same time.

Anyone else here do this?

^
mmm...i often watch tv, eat and go online at about the same time.
i only have 2 hands, so...haha

I'm still a broke student living at home but I think about it because it's going to be time to move out soon. I'm scared of it, honestly. I'm such a messy person I can already see my apartment looking like a pig sty.

living alone is AWSOMEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE! i always hated roomates but starting in June i'll be living with 4 of my friends and i have a single

ITS GONNA BE GREATTTTTTTTTTTTTT~