Recently I lost my bestfriend because of my foolish act.
I just had to act like a beotch. and now she wants
to end our friendship of 10 years. I was very childish and I
regret it 100%. If I could just take back my words, I would
give her a hug and tell her that I love her. She was the ONE
true friend that I could lean on when my world was grey.
I miss her like crazy.. and ive been feeling so depressed..
having her talk behind my back to her "other" friends. because
I was childish.. makes me hurt so much. Whenever I see her now
she just glances then turns away like she doesnt even care.
I know she hurts just as much as I do.. but I really wish we could
be friends again. we dont have to be BEST friends like before..
I just want her to ATLEAST be my friend again.

Ugh I feel like crying now.

anyway.. Have you lost any of your closest friends?
What did it feel like?
Did you get them back in the end?

i haven't really before. but one of my best friends is leaving tonight and i'm gonna be absolutely upset. D:

I felt betrayed by a best friend so I stoped being friends with her.

It's been about a year and it still hurts a little bit and it's not like me to old a grudge, but I can't sem to let go.

I've lost my best friend twice already. Two best friend, lost them both, but I don't care. It wasn't my fault, and I felt that if they were really a true friend, they'd at least play their role the right way. One came before the other though. One in 7th grade and the other in 8th grade. Did so much together but in the end... Ughhhh...

Anyways, to me, I feel like friends come and go. But boyfriends stay.
(I know the saying is the other way around but it's this way to me... lol, i know weird huh? yea...)

to muchacha.... go back to her, do give her that HUG and tell her you love her!!!!
true friendship will withstand these tests

i thought i lost my old close friend forever... i cried so much for our friendship...
it felt like torture...=SSSS i felt so hurt and angered
she literally pushed me away and said get out. and that she hated me...

and yet...after a year or two... she contacted me
we are getting to know each other again...after letting go of our pride and apologizing.
no longer close friends, but still...starting over again

ps. we've been friends since... middle school...distance can make such a difference in friendships, just like it does in relationships

i regret everytime after i fight with my best friends.

I've had that happen twice. The first time was in middle school and I don't even know what I did wrong. There was no explanation from her, she just cut me out entirely and started hanging out with a new group of friends. It completely destroyed any feeling of self-worth I had and I grieved for a very long time. It was the start of a particularly awful period in my life. We're friends again though. It took a couple of years, but one day she just contacted me out of the blue and asked me if I wanted to go to her church youth group with her. Getting saved changed her a lot and for the better. The second time something like this happened was just last year. I...don't really want to go into it, b/c it's still kind of raw for me, but in that situation...it wasn't that we fought or anything. We just lost touch, and miscommunicated and then a whole bunch of other stuff happened. Anyways, suffice it to say we no longer even talk to each other and it kills me that it's come to this.

Losing a friend is awful. Truly awful. My heart goes out to you, sweetie. If you know what you did wrong and you feel like you can make it right, then I say you should at least try to talk to her. If that doesn't work....just let it go. Time will tell whether she comes back or not.

i got into a fight with my best friend that lasted 4 months, where we had no contact with each other what so ever and it was my fault. and it wasn't those small immature fights, it was a big deal, where we both thought it was forreal...our friendship wasn't 10 years long like yours but it was 9~^^...we are ok now because she called me and wanted to meet up...(she was being the mature one, when we fought because of my actions)...

It really sucked. My bestfriend from high school wasn't my bff anymore after I graduated from high school. She's a year younger than me so we kinda lost contact after that. We were like twins. My parents actually thought i was gay because I was with her the whole time. She knew my darkest secret (thank god she didn't tell anyone about it...well not that I know of). It's totally bumped because we talked about how our future is gonna be like after high school. She got pregnant then move away w/o telling me at all.I found out about from another friend. SO yeah bff....really doesn't exist if you can't keep in contact after a few years.

My first best friend, was my first friend. I told her everything, things that happened to me that I couldn't tell anyone else.
Years later I found out she told other people about it and gossiped with them.
I felt devastated and upset. I was too upset to even be sad about it, lol.

I feel like a part of me is missing everytime I lose my best friend.

i gradually lost my best friend , there were a lot of things that caused a rift between us .
and it really hurt me when i realized that things weren't ever going to be the same after our 'last' fall out .
it was as if i lost a sister , cause that's what she was to me . she was the only one who i truly felt comfortable with .
we'd laugh about the stupidest things ever or talk for hours and hours or even just sit with each other without talking .
we went through so many things together and it hurts knowing that it just went all down the drain .

but we're friends again , but it's a shame that we'll never be as close as we were before .
sometimes we'd bump into each other and it's extremely awkward and it'd just remind me of how it was never like that before .
but oh well ... things happen , you just move on .

same

turn back while you have the chance if you still cherish the friendship. you don't want to wait till she's gone forever to realise how foolish you were to not have initiated any action back then.


i'm still regretting it now.

Understand people come and go, and things happen for a reason. Sometimes, it really sucks when certain people you think are good friends walk out of your life or do something stupid.

And know that good friends are hard to find, so don't let go so easily.

there just weren't that much connection as we grew up..
i don't really know what happened..
but i feel sad cause i can't go to her like i used to whenever i'd want to tell her something..
i'm kinda envious of her new best friends now..

Mmm I almost a close friends coz of my actions and another friend
I was really such an idiot for doing what I did
But they were forgiving... but it took a while
I know things can't get back to normal because of what I did
But I feel lucky that they r still friendly
And I would have understood if they held it against me and never talked to me again
I used to talk to them about anything and everything but now ...
Well I guess I have to hold it all inside me
I am so undeserving

i never hated girls as much as this girl
after finding out that she b*tch about me
i felt betrayed and shattered

It takes patience for someone to get over a heartache. It takes patience to wait for them to come back. It sucks to be the one who's broken all the time but true best friends forget and forgives. It's a lot of courage to tell her that you're sorry, you're wrong and you want to be best friend with her again.

Yes, I did get my friends at the end. I broken 2 relationship but gained two of them back. It takes patience and love.

friendships fade.
i wish we could've stayed friends
but it didn't work out that way.
if we were truly friends,
we would've cared enough to actually care.
i felt sad and betrayed (kinda) when i lost my BF.
i just feel regret because i wish we stayed friends.
but you get over it with time.

Hurt. Pissed. Betrayed.
But now? I don't care. They lost me as a friend because of their selfish/egotistical ways. So right now I could care less about them.

forget all ur pride. tell them whats on ur mind but make sure u apologize for being a pinkberry to them in the first place..be humble. if u can't do that then, lol

my bestfriend died in a car crash....
he really liked me but i always said no because we lived in the opposite ends of the world XD!...
so one day he was online and he asked me if he can drink of the party for the nite...i said yes cuz i kno he was goin to anyways.... and he died in a car crash now i regret saying yes .........

i feel so empty without him... he was my diary. i told him everything ....

I just lost my best friend like a month ago.

We were inserparable, but she was 2 grades higher than me. I'm a senior,she's a sophomore in college. When she was still in her junior and senior year in high school, we'd go to every class together, we'd sit at the same lunch table, and eventually I wound up working at the same place as her. Still work there, but haven't worked with her sine we had our fight.

Losing any friend sucks, but especially a best friend. If i could go back in time and fix things though, I probably wouldn't. We have different interests now (:

It fells like crap. Like i haven't lost them YET. But it feels like they're being stolen. In a way.

It hurt so bad that it affected nearly all of my friendships from that point on.
I hurt like hell, and she didn't even realize it.
She broke her single promise, to stay in touch, and I felt like I was left hanging.
The pain didn't leave until nearly 4 years later.

I think you should try to reconcile with her. The friendship might not be the same, but you'll both be stronger because of it. It's definitely worth trying, even if you end up fighting during the process.

I've been betrayed by them and our friendship faded.
they also used me so xD
We no longer talk to each other, it's only hi or how are you?

i had 4 best friends
one changed
another one also changed and moved away
... oh what am i saying???
all of them changed!!!
they just dont want to be best friend again i guess

i never lost a bestfriend through arugeing or soemthing. i lose them because we dont keep in touch. me and my bestfriend are going to different highschools so we dont talk much. just once in a while, we would call each other to say hi and ask each others whats happening and thats it

i thought i've lost my best friend one time and it felt horrible
like losing something precious
and mourning over the loss of it
but then we're best friends again =]
but that was a former best friend lol not my current one

I lost a good friend in 7th grade. But it was all for the best because I didn't need people like her in my life anyway. I'm glad she wasn't my friend anymore.
But I did get into a semi-fight with my best friend a couple weeks ago and I regretted it. I hate being mad at him, we've never got into a fight before in the 4 years we've known each other.

yah lost one of my best friends last year
she met another girl, became frds and turned and changed to be a real b itch
she did stuff and smsed things that were really....
I was really sad during that period
officially ended the frdship
only like a week ago, she msned me and apologised, I didn't forgive her. So we're still strangers lol
I don't forgive or forget easily

oh and I lost my best frd in like grade 6 I think
we just one day for some weird reason stopped talking, after like two months she left to go to another city....I still wonder why we just stopped talking
there was no reason to
total regret

oh another one, well I changed schools, and we grew apart
haha

i felt betrayed after left for college.
my best friend totally replaced me with someone esle and he doesn't even acknowledge the fact that we use to be best friends..=/

It hasn't hit me yet. I refuse to believe she is gone.

well when my big sister left for college..i was really depressed

i'm almost losing one... almost. but the thing is that we still love each other even though we don't talk so much anymore. sometimes i wished things would go back to the way it was before... but hey, one thing i know for me is, life goes on, and people move on... :T gotta face it even though it's really hard.

i've recently lost all three of my very close friends for different reasons...
to be honest... i've just felt really distant
there isn't really much else i can do other than to move on

sounds like me but instead i was the one that ended my friendship with my best friend.

it hurts a lot.. hence if you have time reading.. check out my thread i made a long time ago about what happened to my friend and i.. sorry i can't find the thread.. it was quite some time ago =X but yea..

brief rundown: well she was my only best friend and since then.. it's been quite a few years now.. i'm still friendless.. she just took the 'bestfriend' thing out of me so much.. it's so hard to open up to people now even if they really are trying to be my friend.

hopefully you'll get over it soon =(

LIKE A MONSTER TRUCK RAN OVER ME. IM SUCH AN IDIOT
i have to learn how to think before i act..

My friendship was long-term and they way I treated my friend, oh my God, I was so mean. :(
I think I just got it stuck in my head that my other best friend hated her so I hated her too.
And the year I was going to actually mend our relationship (it had been going quite well since then), she moved ffaaarrr away. I think this lasted all the way from grade school to middle school. :)

I like...stalk her. xD I sent her a letter once. She never replied.
I sent her sister a PM once and she never really said anything.
And I sent her an e-mail once which I KNOW she received.

She never replied. :(

Oh well, I've kind of gotten over it. I've tried and that's really all that matters. :) It's her loss if she doesn't want to continue a friendship I tried to work on. OKAAYY...

when we entered highschool,
everybody changed

friends changed

^ im sorry that happened to you


anywwayyyssss im glad ive never really lost a best friend.
friendships from when i was younger just kinda faded.
but we're still friends, just not the best of friends.
it all kinda changed when she moved to another school,
and made friends with other types of people,
and gained some smoking, drinking, and all sorts of other habits.
it was like she just wasn't the same sweet girl i knew,
when we hung out after she moved, she was the same person
but as soon as her new friends called her it was like
"ahehehe so satuday? okay, we're totally gonna get wasted, and im gonna
get a peice of that hot ass, his abs are like sooo nice!"
maybe i wasn't as accepting as i should've been with her new behaviours,
but we're still friends....


i'd be a total wreck if i lost any of my current (and forever XD) bestfriends

felt like absolute crap.

All my friends.

I had to start out fresh.

Yes, I regret it and I feel horrible. It's not like it ended with a fight, but I think they wanted it to end because of my personality. I've hopefully changed myself...And I hope I've become a better person now.

I have. Twice.

It's definitely not a pleasant thing.
The first time was completely my fault and the second time, (different person) it was hers.
So I guess it kind of balances out... in a really sad way.

I guess you have to keep in mind that people change and sometimes, it's better to be
apart than to be together.

Although I have to say that if your friendship was for 10 years, maybe you should give it some
time. Maybe something good will happen...

thank goodness i've never lost a best friend~
i didn't know if any from elementary school or kindergarten count but i had to move to US (from china) so we all drifted apart, and we couldn't keep in touch with each other because we were young then and didn't have emails n such. i sometimes miss them, but it's kind of hard to really remember then because it was such a long time ago, i don't even remember some of their names.

my current best friend, i've been bffs with since middle school, but then we moved to different schools around the area so we got to see each other less, but we kept our friendship through all these years. now we're in college and she's really far, but i've gotten used to it. i feel paranoid sometimes thinking that we are drifting apart and we'd have nothing in common or nothing to talk about, it really frightens me to even think about losing her as my best friend. but when we get the chance to get together again we'd always laugh and talk like we just saw each other yesterday(or something lol) and i'm glad it's that way =)
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to topic starter ^^:
you have been friends with her for 10 years,iknow it sounds cliche but friendships like that don't come to your door everyday. you and her have been through so much, if you think this friendship was worth its 10 years, don't you think you should do something to save it?

best of luck to you <33

im sorry about your friend.. whatever it is that you may have done, im sure over time she'll forgive and forget, esp if you guys have been friends for over 10 years. mistakes happen. just tell her how you feel.. well good luck

lol. i lost my bestfriend to a guy that she started to attach herself to like a little lovesick puppy. but eh, later on, i finally realized she's not much of a best friend nor a friend. just a person who loves to use people for her own selfish reasons.

Yeah I lost a best friend when I moved.
My mom forced me to cut her off because she thought she was a bad influence on me.
But my best friend was still a really good person.
She was always there when I needed to talk, and we laughed until we cried sometimes.
Now I don't even know where she is.
I never told her the reason why I couldn't talk to her on the phone anymore.
I wish I could make it up to her and tell her that I really miss her.
And see her again and be friends again.
*sighs* this is making me all nostaglic.