. sorry if this has been posted before ><"

but ..

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is it just me .. or does it seem that SO MANY relationships turn out like this ?

why do so many relationships turn out like .. i don't know .. a never ending circle ?

it`s like you two barely know each other like strangers .. and gradually over time .. you get closer to them, it`s like they become your bestfriend, one who makes you laugh and understands you, to a stage where you like them .. and then you guys eventually go out, BF`GF i guess

but then comes to the

break up

the whole

"drifting apart"
"too clingy"
"too busy for a relationship"
"just didnt' work out"
"let`s break up"


and from suddenly like super close friends. it`s like

BAM ?

strangers

. he/she never talk to you no more?
. or when you guys talk it`s like a dead conversation ?
. you walk by each other and pretend your complete strangers?
. when you randomly meet in group outings, you tell people that you don't know each other or that you`ve never met them before ?

seriously, does anyone else think like this ?
anyone been treated like this ?
has it ever happeend to you guys ?

because it`s happened to me with the whole complete stranger thing .. but i got over it and so forth (;

care to share any stories anyone much =/ ?

xx L.FOR.LOVE

woooahhh
thats like meeeee !
kindaaaa ..

i met this guy by a friend we got really close
we didnt go out or anything .
but uhms ... he liked me :|
and i did toooo .. but not at the same time
when i was over him
he liked me then ..
and likeeeee .. i was overseas then ..
and when i got back he stopped liking me
never talked to me anymore .. it seemed like ..
he was to "busy" with the other girls in his life ..
>< ahhhh ... i hateeee it .. cs like ..
i dont like loosing friends specially when like im tightwith them
when i see him . i dont even look at him anymore ..
yeh .. like .. were just complete strangers to each other ..
" not even a hiii or anything .
suckkks D: ..

happened to me.

it just happens. :/ we still talk a bit and say hi, but we aren't as close as we were before.
all i can say is meh. i moved on so yeah.

Thats like me right there,
like we broke up & he wanted to be friends
but how can i be friends without someone i still like
so we became strangers

so one day i was at the mall, i was with my friends & he was with his.
my friends knew his friends, so we stop, so she can talk to his friends
and my friend introduce us, We acted like we didnt know each other,
we just nodd and went our seperate ways. it was really arkwardd.

Its like one day was like soo CLOSE & the nexts, we acting like we dont know each other

hahah thats happened to me a few times.

gosh i miss him as a best friend and a boyfriend

Yeah.. horrible. Hate it. Everytime I see him, it gets me back the bad memories...

I don't understand this thread. Why does this seem surprising to you? Isn't this logical, common way for a relationship to occur?

Obviously everyone starts off as strangers.
Of course couples tend to feel a strong connection/attraction and tend to spend lots of time together.
And then, of course, the majority of relationships fail for a variety of reasons and they break up.
And most people who break up, tend to avoid each other due to pain and/or awkwardness.

Is it really so surprising that the majority of relationships occur like this?

Not all relationships occur like this, in any case. Tons of people remain on friendly terms with their exes, for example.

Yeah
haah strangers - acquaintances - friends - boyfriend - stranger
most them of are like that
the only relationship that has the bestfriend part in there is the one i'm in right now
i tried to be friends with all my ex
but they never seem to bother ._.
so hahah i never bother too

me n my ex.. some sort of this situation haha...~
we hardly talk... kinda like strangers now lol

Logical cycle of life hunny.

somewhat in the same boat. we still claim to be friends with each other. but it's really hard to be around him. i do my best to act like nothing ever happened before & that it's not awkward anymore. but whenever i am around him, which i pretty much am every day since we have like 15 mins together in this class .. it's hard for me to look him in the eye. & when i do, it's like one quick glance & then i look away. & now i'm even starting to wonder "why did i like him? what did i see in him? why did we even go out? what was i thinking?" & all those questions.

happened to me.
-bestfriend
-went out
-broken up
-stranger
but whats stupid is he gives me dirty looks (its like his lookin down on me)
and when people ask him if he knows me he says "NO i dont know her" *so mean*

yea...but the first time was different
strangers-close friends-went out-brokeup-strangers...

but eventually we talked again...the reason i think the strangers part is inevitable for a time...we have to give each other space after something like that...but sometimes we tend to give up in general...so we dont bother to talk. right now im just thinking wat to do ...haha cuz im back at the "strangers" part with her. its funny how even though everyone goes through this all the time and we'll never find the easy answer to solve the strangers problem.

as long as ur both willing to work as friends...it'll work, but thats alot of determination and finding an even ground

luckily never happened to me...but it's not surprising...it's SUPPOSE to happen.

yeah...

i tried reconciling sicne i was immature about how i ended things..apologzied...tried talking again..dead awkward..so i give up on all that..not worth it...haha

yuppp that happened 2 months ago =( so sad and we were like we'll wait till after graduating for eachother cause my mom didn't let us date ... i guess that's not happening...

but actually with my first bf we're even closer and he's actually my best friend now 0_0;;

mm well
my ex and I were best friends before we went out
then under 2 years later he cheated and broke up with me
we just haven`t talked since
because he thought I would cling to him afterwards
or something.? or maybe b/c he doesn`t want to give the 100$ he owes me. LOL

that's what it was like with my first bf, although we werent ever really super close. i guess we just went out for the heck of having a gf/bf, which was sort of lame.

im still close with my recent ex, although he was both my best friend and my boyfriend (when we were going out). now i guess he's just my best friend, but it's still a little weird because of our past.

yeah my ex and i are kinda like this, since we broke up, we hardly talk anymore, the last time i've spoke to him was last year november when a friend called me and he happened to be there as well so my friend passed the phone over to him. We exchanged a few words and joked abit and that was it, that was the last time i spoke to him.

That's how it is with me and all my ex's...
I'm actually dating someone I've dated before and when we broke up, I disappeared off the face of the planet -___-;
After break ups I tend to feel really awkward since after the relationship is over, some of them said they still liked me and... well we broke up in the first place because I didn't like them anymore and yeah, awkward. .___.;
As of right now, I'm only friends with two of my ex's.. 2/17, that's pretty bad (not like the number 17 is bad...-____- )

O.O that is soo true....this is going to be LONGGGGG

there's this girl who i know...well she's kind of my friend lol...but anyways..
she's been with many guys...yea and well she's not allow to date anyways but still has these flings going on at school out of reach from her parents of course since she's not allow to date. but yea it usually lasts a month or so she makes it a really big deal until the day the boy confess she kind of shelters herself from that person. it's hard to describe and sounds like she's a player =\ but yea
after that they like...dont talk much to each other for a long time and after a while i guess they start mingling a little bit but still...it's like hardly there anymore that friendship they had before

awkward much

for me..it happened just last year. it all started when i was in grade 8 then well it just stopped after summer.. he changed =\ then the next year we never talked for once a full year and then just last year we had a class together and started to talk again..and he did confess to me but i wasn't sure if i was ready for a relationship so yea. then after that it was kind of on and off us hanging out and talking. soon it became to a point where he's ignoring me and skipping the class we had together. and yea...now we're kind of talking to each other again.

i hope it's not me causing the problem 'cause i hate losing a friend of mine through something like this =( but i guess he doesn't like me for rejecting him? i felt bad afterwards but after having to see what happens when one gets a bf in my household i was kind of glad i didn't accept him as it'd be a big issue with my parents and snapp..

I hate it when that happens.
i dont get why people cant go on
just like before they ever dated.
Its not that hard.
But I guess there's always that
awkwardness in between you two.

It hurts a lot when its like that.
=(

it happened to me and now we don't even look at each other anymore.

Unfortunately, that's the way I want it to be too.
I don't want to love someone with all my heart only to like that person as just a friend later. I'd rather that person not be in my life anymore.

haha cycle of relationships much?
same thing happen to me
the point is well just get on with your life
normally when exes act like strangers towards each other its due to the fact that past memories are too painful to remember
and also it depends on how they break up

yeah when i see my ex its like all those memories pop up
so i ignore her n try not to feel anything
i guess its for the best

when we were together we only knew each other for about a year
in that year we were like the best of friends
when we were together we were like an item
oh how so many envied us yet slowly and surely the inevitable happened
stuff happened and two people distance away from each other...
then boom "break up"
relationships are hard to maintain =="

that happened to me and my best guy friend (or at least we used to be best friends...)
we never got together though bc i was with his best friend before, and it's the whole guys over girls (vice versa for girls too)
but there was a point and time where we did like each other... after my ex and i completely stopped talking it became awkward to talk to him so much and i also stopped liking him
later he confessed to me (when he was drunk though) that he had always liked me and thought i was a really cool person. it made me sad that it took that to get it out of him but i could see how he was loyal to his best friend.

now we're still friends and we talk but we aren't as close as we were before

it just seems like the logical way to go, unless both parties feel like it's better off to be just friends rather than a couple. then it would seem like they could salvage some sort of friendship after the break-up.

but, if it's the case that one person dumps the other person, then being strangers seems like the logical consequence.

naaa, well it's sort of.
I ended it with the "I don't think it's working out, I need some space"
But we're still friends, he calls me up every now and then,
so we can catch up,
he's with his girlfriend #2 now ¬____¬!!
and I'm happily single,
which sucks compared to him XD
secretly we're competing against eachother in everything we do.. dammit.

About half my relationships can relate to that.. but the other half is more..

Strangers > Deep-Like > Bf/Gf > Break up > Strangers. (there was no friendship between the strangers and bf/gf which I guess makes sense because those relationships didn't last.. Haha)

yeah, so true; i've had that happen to me i surely miss him as a friend;

gahhh you know i've never been through that whole cycle due to my lack of experience...but i've been through
strangers -> friends -> close friends -> friends -> strangers
=SSS with 2 of the guys i really liked

but i'm so scared of that strangers to friends to relationship to strangers thing happening=(( why do most relationships just not work out?

yeh. life suks doesn't it? it happened to me..expect things happened n we never went out. so it went to strangers->friends->close friends-> strangers :'[

n the fact taht i didn't like how were close..but never went out. so I broke our friendship up. N thats the one thing i really regret doing in my life...

my ex is literally going to be gone. shipped off to alaska! good riddens! i'm not hopping onto that sinking ship.

Very true.

Strangers -> Friends -> Really close friends -> Attempted Close Friends -> Friends -> Strangers ..........-> Working towards Friends ;P

hm iuno my ex and I are friends.
we laugh and talk like normal people..

He never became my boyfriend, but was still the same. Started out strangers, acquaintances, confessed to one another, became best friends, stuff came into the way, and now we barely talk. But when we see one another, we still say hi and hugs, exchange a few lines, then go our separate ways. That's how most relationship work out. It's not surprising at all.

But with my first boyfriend, we still talk. We're really good friends, actually.

yeaah! totally agree, that's like happened to me so many times.
it ends like " oh lets wait till we're older.. " or "i dont have the same feelings for you..." etc.
and then suddenly you just dont talk . at ALL. i try and talk, regardless of whether he br oke up with me or i broke up with him- i still want to be friends. obviously not.

its always like "We can still be friends." -- Well, that doesn't really happen because whenever you're around them- memories of when u were together just pop up. you can't just be friends anymore.

my current ex and I don't text or talk on msn anymore. but we do talk in real life.. a bit oO"

the guy before who told me he liked me... after school holidays- he completely ignores me. He's the type that. if he talks to a girl- it means he has a crush on her. And everyone knows when he stops liking her because he stops talking to her. Eh.

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BUMP ~

lol so many replies (;

thank you super much all.

yup, that happened to me a month ago.
although, i think i'm glad we're strangers now because it feels as though everytime he talks to me my emotion rushes to my heart immediately and i begin thinking of the "best friends" days.
huyyyy..
strangers, it is.

yeahhh we broke up bc we just wantedto be friends but ... voila, look what happened
i have nooo idea why

Its a vicious cycle...

...broken by marriage.

sadly... it happened to me... i have no idea what happened though.... T.T bad memories...

its sad...mostly all the time it always happens...i mean my last bf was kinda like that so yeah its sad...we've always been friends since so long...but i didn't work...

Thats like me except the last 2 steps..
We broke up but we distanced ourselves from each other.. Then the next thing you know, he's trying to talk to me and meet me up all over again!
Wth o__o but in general what you said is true =)
But i'm still friends with some of my exes.. just not as close as we used to be
T_T

the beginning's kinda retarded lol :x
EVERYONE begins as strangers >_____> even if you guys knew each other since young, you were still strangers before that @_@

and i disagree .. most relationships i see arent like that at all .. they usually end up being friends after break up. and they were never super bestest friends before bfgf.

Yepp, me and one my ex is like that.
We were really good friends, liked each other for a long time,
Finally went out, but soon broke up, and now we walk past each other in the halls w/o saying sht.

It sucks. I miss him.

i bet.. that has happened to everyone at least one time in their lives.

my 1st bf, he was a total ass to me. but this is the quote i made up that described how we became to be.
first hated him. then adored him. now love him -- which is of course, back then. so the 'now' is no more! haha.

but then after 2 long years and 7 months, we broke up. and everything just.. went back to the way like it was in the beginning.. well i don't care. its like the circle of life.

Yeah, that's how it was with me and my first ex . But that was my fault >_> I wanted to go out with a dramatic "Goodbye!" and lo and behold...I haven't talked to him in 4 years.

My other ex was/IS an egotistical idiot so I really didn't care if I had any contact with him at all. Hahaha.

gahh i`m like literally dead tired

but there`s alwys time for soompi <3

bum bump bump !