Am i the only one that seems like its hard to meet people after college?
i hardly meet people at work since i work for an engineering firm and most of the engineers are older....men....
after work i come straight home, since my friends are either working, or i'm too tired to do anything.

on the weekends i'll go out with some friends maybe...but their social circle are all the same people as well.
So how DO u meet people nowadays??
going clubbing? bar hopping? im not a big pub type of person but supposedly u meet people there. I sometimes go clubbing but meeting ppl at clubs seem....shady. Join clubs? What kinda clubs can u join after college? Take classes?
Gosh....i just wanna expand my circle to meet new people...meet potential dates...its so hard...I'm geting pretty let down now ><

if ur athletic.join a league.volleyball.dodgeball..or else take up a new sport like tennis
or take some classes.like salsa dancing or cooking..or even learning a new language type of class
or do some volunteer work at local events.

meeting ppl slowed down mid-college..so mostly i only hang out w/ either the closer highschool friends, my dragonboat friends (good sport to meet ppl!!) and some work friends

I agree with you on the whole "it's hard to meet people after college" problem. Many times, i've conversed with my friends and contemplated on how we had it good back in highschool when you're forced to be with the same group of people for 4 years while growing with each other... at least, despite the hate and the drama, it was easier to "meet" people when you were in school... even college has its limitations, depending on where you go. I attend community college and it doesn't have a very active campus-life, so it's rare that I meet new "friends" there and become close enough with them to actually cultivate a well-rounded relationship with them.

The clubbing & bar-hopping... I've tried those too... but it just seemed to be wasted efforts and money in the end (personally, for me,) because the guys i've hooked up with at those joints usually ended up to be after something that I wasn't really looking for, and it just ended up falling apart... but there are those that continue to go there every weekend night and continue to hook up -- and more so than not, they end up together, amazingly... so it does work for SOME people, though not all. If that's not your thing, then don't force yourself into it. you'll just feel bored and depressed at the end of the night.

I've actually contemplated in joining those online-matchmaking sites or getting hooked up by people at one point as well, but they all seemed so "planned" and almost too forceful... and until not too long ago, I even went as far to tell myself (and the people around me) that if I didn't find anyone significant by the time i'm 27, i'll join myself to those matchmaking or dating clubs/sites and have my go at the 6 date guarantees or what-have-yous that they offer... I would've gone through with it, had I not reconnected with my old highschool friend whom, I am now proud to say, is my boyfriend :]

That's another thing -- sometimes, reconnecting with people you've known back in jr high or high school can spark interest in you guys that didn't exist before... This works because now both of you guys went out and saw a bit of the world, experienced things out of the protective bubble that is teenage years, and matured -- even just a little and that helps a lot in terms of compatibility and connections.

I hope this helped :]

<3 nana

I've met people at random places. Gosh its difficult to define them all.

Most of them through friends of friends. Gigs, concerts, etc. Or even randomly meeting people on the street.

Don't be afraid to say hi to someone on the street.

The most true advice.

This extends beyond the street to venues that you frequent. If you don't like clubbing, then bother meeting people at clubs because chances are, they will club a lot. On the other hand, if you go to venues that you like, chances are, people who go too will like it a lot themselves. Talking about the venue is a great conversation starter as well. Just don't be afraid to say HI.

coffee shops, gym / athletic clubs bookstores, big social events with lots of foot traffic, volunteering organizations, night classes, church [if you are religious], standing in line anywhere, killing time on the bus/subway, conventions, malls [yea, old school high school tactics still sometimes come in handy!].... there's lots

I meet all my dates on Soompi!
<3

Haha, but seriously bookstores, coffee shops, local sports clubs, or i just go down to the beach and get in on some Volleyball pick up games.

Most of the time, I meet people through network. Friends bringing friends to hang out, and that's how you get to meet people.

irony of it all is,...although i'm surrounded by people everyday, on the subway, walking in the financial district, etc etc,,,i've never felt so isolated at the same time. Funny how that works eh? hehe, but all your suggestions are awesome, keep it coming!

i feel like that's almost impossible on the streets of new york during rush hour :/



i know exactly how you feel. sometimes you want someone to notice you and say hi, but then sometimes, you don't want certain people to talk to you because they turn out to be crazy.

Lol at the saying hi thing. I dunno, I think most people have self-built defense mechanisms against strangers, especially in large cities.

This woman wanted me to teach her Chinese on the bus and I was busy cramming for a midterm. At first, I was like..huh, wtf, but we actually had a nice convo after that.

I dunno, I've had my share of meeting creeps/weirdos who strike convos w/ me randomly, so I'm kind of wary of this. A lot of them are from religious groups too....and they force their pamphlets etc. on me. So if a smily person comes up to me and tries to strike a convo, I get kind of skeptical. Because most of the time, it's going to be about some religious thing, fundrasier, sales thing, etc.

I met people online, events, bookstores, I even met my ex at a Target. It can be scary saying hi to total strangers but who knows who you might meet.

I meet people at bars and through other friends/acquaintances. The thing about being an "expat" is that everyone kind of clings to the other expats.

-ginger

OK you've taken my words too literally, try talking to the person behind you in a line, starting a convo in a library, or at the gym, etc.

There are many places to meet people.

You just need the drive and confidence to make that happen.