picture request = ihave a 411


Here is this story...

so i am a regular at this cafe near my schooll..
i usually go there after my last class..
usually my friends would be there already..
alot of the fob kids hang out there..
and then there is this japanese dude who works there ever tuesday, wednesday, thursday, and friday
i think he's been working there for about 4 months now..
i kinda know his schedule cause i go so often..
we'd have small conversations.. and thats pretty much it..
and there is friend of mine who has a crush on him
hes pretty good looking.. (IM NOT mm like that..)
actually i think a lot of the girls who go to the cafe come to see him..
and last weekend he asked me for my number
then we chilled and he took me to a gay club
i didnt know until we got it..
i was freakin freaked out @@ ..
really really awkward
he introduced me to his friends there..
i really really wanted to run at first ~~
i ended up having a few drinks ..
and just talking to these guys (oh and talk to woman too)
it wasnt to bad..
just filled with bi people..
and then alalalalal @#@#!@#&!@^&#!@*$#^#*$#
i didnt want to hurt his feelings so ..
all i said was
"sorry man..
lets be friends and chill out more "

i wanted to ask why he thought i was in that way but..
i just couldnt ... .
now im on break, far away
hes probably thinking, oh man i scared him off...
uhh ohh..
...

i really wonder why..
and ive been thinking really really hard lately..
asking my friends questioning them non stop..
is it my voice?? .. i do have a SLIM ACCENT not bad.. better than most fobs
and now i think it sounds a bit ~~ girlish idk... !@#!@#!@#
clothing?? .. ..
usual clothes is blazer white shirt and jeans, mostly skinny..
or if its not that its .. pjs, hoodie and a hat.. (i get lazy lots and its a cafe so its comfortable)
i am quite small and skinny~~
170cm//53kg
so i dont wear the american brand clothing.. a bit baggy and big .. so i dont like..
it doesnt fit much..
mostly diesel and a/x
they are good fit..
wahh

i think Its THE SKINNY JEANS...
and another problem im thinking is ..
i do hang out with these two bi girls a lot..
they are really great friends of mine.. went to the same high school ..
helped me lots .. with private life..
they dress like a boy everday..
i wonder if thats a reason ..
ah i think its my appearance as a hole..
i do wear girlish earrings sometimes.. .. (guys earrings arnt as pretty)
and my hair is in a poney tail a lot too..

do you guys assume a character like me would be gay??
im about to change my appearance @.@
argg i dont want to tell friend that hes gay too..
crazy problem..
how should i fix !@#!@#!@#!@#
this is driving me nuts ..
my friends are making fun of me like crazy

aARGG headache again @.@ ..
aiyayaaaaaaahh
very new experience
how very fun life can be..

from the sounds of it...
i like your style ;D LOL
dont need to change just coz someone got you mistaken (?)
you see alot of japanese/chink/krn having girlyish styles
like leejunki :] and theyre fine with it~
dont worry too much

you don't need to change yourself for this one time.

first off why would you tell people about this? Especially people who would make fun of you for it.

Anyways

I just gotta say, you must be really skinny o_o
Maybe that's it. Maybe you can try to bulk up a bit, but not too much or you'll look even gayer. >_>
And the girly earrings and ponytail. Lose it.
Also the PJ's outside.

It ain't the skinny jeans. I wear them and know lots of straight guys who wear them. hell I know straight guys that wear girl's jeans.

Hanging out with gay/bi people could be part of it too, but that really can't be helped.

All in all, be proud. Gay guys tend to be pickier than girls, so you must be a great guy (no homo)

Probably because you look so pretty handsome thats why O:
You don't look gay or anything, but you do look a little feminine in a good way (like Lee Jun ki ;p)

Or maybe because you were friendly enough to chat with him ^^

Or or or~ He just wanted to chill out with you in a place that he was comfortable with, which happens to be a gay bar O:

Don't stress too much about this lol!

yea in asia you would be fine

but ur in boston in the west. in the west any asian guy who is thin and small is a target for gays.

suggest you work out more and eat a LOT more beef.

your style sounds kinda fobby.

I've always thought how fobby guys look gay.

>.<

Okay, maybe I should say something constructive.

You should lose your girly earrings and ponytail.
Maybe also the skinny jeans. Maybe it's just me but guys with skinny jeans look gay to me (well... it depends on how skinny the jeans are... U.U). Especially when they are short.

You didn't mention your facial features... Are they feminine?

eh, it's not really a problem. You're just really metro, some girls like that.

It's cuz you're too cute, Wonny. He couldn't resist your charm ;D


muchlove!
-jisoo

ehh your style sounds more fobby..
but in a way you do sound kind of metro..lol
i think you shouldn't change because of that guy,
but instead just don't hang out with him if you don't feel comfortable.

you shouldn't have to change yourself for anyone
it should be a compliment that a gay guy found you attractive,they are super picky : PP
but if you are uncomfortable then dont hang out with him anymore
you can still chat,but dont go out in public with him if it freaks you out that much lol

you kno thats no reason to change yourself for that...if you kno what you are then thats what you are...its all good...

I would go with the last two personally. Probably just liked you as a person and wanted to get to know you more. Did he actually ask you out or hang out? There can be a difference depending on the context and the person etc. And yea maybe the guy only hung out at this particular bar because it's where his friends hung out at and he didn't have time to know other places maybe or it's just a fun place with cool people. You could be looking too much into this. And yea I wouldn't change myself either unless you're unhappy with who you are.

my friend told me this once.
you are super hot if a gay guy finds you attractive.

Ya you shouldnt have to change yourself just for ppl not to assume stuff. Dressing like that doesnt really necessarily make you gay, anyway. Everyone has different styles and u should just wear what u like and feel good in. Hell, I wear some A/X and diesel sometimes. But yah, the reason ppl do assume things like that is for many reasons: the way you talk, act, walk, laugh, dress, eat. The list goes on and on. You dont want to change all that do you? I wouldnt.

LOL..ur too pretty!!! xD
stop it or the girls at the cafe wil get mad! j/k j/k
mianhae..i find it kinda funny
anyhoo...
i say to tell him straight up that ur not "that way" or else he's gonna keep thinking that something he did drove u away and u'd totally lose a friend =[
i have gay/bi friends and they're actually really fun people (if they're not hitting on me that it)
but don't change urself because of it =P
do what u think this rite and dress the way ur comfortable

nah you shouldn't change. maybe the guy just got a vibe from you or something.

but..pictures would help

okay nvermind, scratch that. i saw your 411 pictures and soompi meet. you're actually pretty cute xD
ahem, well to the point i'm thinking it's from the pony tail and your bi friends.
gay/bi people hang out with fellow gays/bi's?

HAhahaahaahaha
You must be really girly. Gay guys like girly men?
Yea I think that's why.
And nope, there is no need to change yourself for this.

errrrmmmm, that's very feminine of u...LOL...but don't change ur style, mayb except for the earrings part...mayb he just doesn't have a good gaydar....ahahahh, i'm probably really offensive...sorry!!

Definately no need to change yourself. Perhaps he was just mistaken or he was just really hoping?

At least he didn't kiss you. I remember this one time I went camping with my dad's friend and we were just talking and boom out of nowhere she kissed me.

The way you handled it was good, you let him know you didn't swing that way and that's the end of that.

True. My bf used to get hit on by gay guys a lot and he takes it as a compliment of sorts (although sometimes it weirds him out).

I think your first mistake was giving your number to the guy... you missed the signals from him that basically said he wanted to go on a date with you. Cuz really, guys don't just meet random guys and ask for their phone numbers to "chill" (at least straight guys around here).

So next time a guy asks for your number, don't give it to him, hehe. Otherwise I really don't think you need to change the way you are.

Okay, i'm not going to lie, if I saw you on the street (with how you percieve yourself) My gay-dar will probably blink

I actually do think most FOB guys dress a bit to...Femme that most people would put them into the "flaming gay" stereotype (But not all gay guys dress like that i'm just saying..)

I think you should just chill, you should feel good that a gay guy finds you attractive lol

Your first mistake was definitely giving him your phone number :x
But other than that... I don't know - the way you described your style reminds me of like... all these metro fobs I know.
But lol. That's so cute hahahahahahah :X

ur very stylish. and u know wat they say. gay people has a nice sense of style. so maybe thats wat attracted him to u.

reading other people's posts...
Does this mean that the guys I would go for are GAY? TT_______TT
Like me, some girls find metro/fashionable guys really attractive [minus the skinny jeans]

Don't worry about people thinking that you're gay. As long as you make it clear that you're straight and don't flirt with guys, it's okay. I think you sent him mixed signals... Try to be clear about it if this kind of thing ever happens again.

ahaha, wow thats just awesome! ahaha jk!
but yeah,
im a gay guy, and im usually a very picky person..
so i guess you must be attractive..

and thats a good thing!
but yah, if you give phone numbers out, and the way you dress and stuff, i would assume your gay too..

so be careful of your actions man.

im from boston and i feel awkward knowing theres such things as a gay club T__T but that's beside the point.

GO eat some meat and bulk up =O cause from the sound of it, if i persay saw you walking down the streets i'd probably think you were bi or something. since i feel awkward seeing guys wearing skinny jeans, with girly earrings and a ponytail. i would honestly mistaken you as bi or gay >O<

Rofl, why change? Just be flattered and get over it.

LOL, I don't think your style has to do with it.
There are a lot of Asian boys with ponytails and wear skinny jeans.
I think you got nice style (:

I think he just finds you attractive cuz.. you're you. O__O

But whoa, LOL HE TOOK YOU TO A GAY BAR. That's a scary experience XD!
But also new and interesting, eh?

Oh yea and I wanted to add... one of my friends thought my bf and his best friend were gay when they first met them (haha). They dress very well (very metro), and were always sitting together in class. But of course upon actually talking to them and having conversations with them, it was clear they weren't gay.

So it doesn't matter if you dress a certain way or not-- it's the way you talk to people and interact with them that will determine whether or not they think you're gay.

hahahha awww .. this made me
smile & laugh .. you're so cute !
lol .. i think i would act the same
way if i was in your shoes as well
hmm well was he cute .. ackkk
cross that out .. not helping lol

but really, i think you just need to
go back and talk to him and tell
him you're straight and that you
guys could just be "friends" hmm
either that or you can avoid him
and get an extreme makeover
so he'll never know it was you x]

ok good luck !!

noo .. but really though .. you
have to talk to him .. cause just
picture yourself in his position
you wouldn't want someone you
like to be avoiding you and not
know why .. rite .. just talk things
out let us know the end of
your story !

sorry i find this is really funny...u must be pretty good looking to have a gay guy to like u.....do u wear really tight skinny jeans or normal??? do u have a feminine gesture??

btw dont need to run away....just tell him if ur straight n act normal!!! if he's cool with it then you can be fren with him

haha ohh wonnyy. well, i think u jus needa make sure he knows that u dun roll that way.

well this guy i used to know dressed TOOO nice, and wore clicky shoes, adn i asked him if hes gay, he said no .i felt bad.

@ everyone
thanks for you comments ..
ive spent my times reading them all


@ dinky-monkey
my facial fetures are quite boyishly looking ..

@ SouthernBelle82
he ask me me out =__=

@ FusionGT2
i dont @@

@ RePLaY
not too tight jeans .. sometimes maybe.. // i dont think i have feminine gesture..

You're cute haha. Maybe TOO cute...

woooahh .
gay club huh ? :|
i dont think its the skinny jeans, alot of guys wear skinny jeans.
i dont think its ur friends either or ur appearance?
probably he jsut thought he had a chance with u
because u seem nice and u know ?
probably he wanted to take a chance?

lol idno.

im sorry, im a visual learner,
it would help me out more if you show a picture,
profile picture, astrological sign, blood type, etc.
joking.

but that is a good experience.
at least you handle it well.
you sound cool.

take care.

i don't like to think you should change at all..

why should a guy change ? your fashion sense is perfectly neat, it shows style, and hey it is popular in your home country.

so why should you change?

blame the girls or the guys in boston for being twisted. because you are the True Man, not the lumberjack blockheads stumbling outside and falling over into ditches.

i found out there are quite a lot of gay clubs..

=__=



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// aiiyaa i should stop giving out my #

ur prolly jus metrosexual aha.

Haha I'm so curious as to what you look like XD Post photos please LOL.

He was probably confident enough to just 'take the chance' and hope you swing that way.

Fob style for guys is a bit 'trendy' and I suppose some may mistake that as gay.
Like other's have said, don't need to change yourself.


I mean, if I were a gay guy, and I met a guy I thought was incredibly attractive, I wouldn't pass up the chance to confess.