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SushiToaster
Hey guys. I really need some help on what to do right now because I am thoroughly creeped out.

So I have this friend at school. His name is Danny.

I just got to know him this year, and he's a pretty decent friend. I mean, I talk to him since we have 2 of the same classes and a couple of the same friends, but we don't hang out outside of school, until recently.

Last week (I just got back last night), our school, along with a couple other schools, had a 6-day trip to Washington DC. It was amazing and really really fun. And I saw some guys from my old school (that got really cute, by the way, haha) and got even closer with my best friends.

And on the 2nd night, me and my friends/roommates are up late talking and fooling around. And somehow Danny comes in. It goes like this (friends' dialogue are in grey):
"I think Danny likes you"
"Well, yeah, we're friends, I like him too."
"No, as in like, really like. Crush-like"
"Haha, no that's impossible.
"Seriously. Think about it. It seems kinda obvious now."
"Stop being silly guys, we're just friends."
"Geez, you're so stupid, haha. So clueless about everything"

And I begin to notice all these creepy things. He's like, following me around whenever my group is in the same place as his group. When I go gift shopping around Williamsburg at Merchant's Square, he follows me around, even when I go look at bracelets and necklaces at little jewelery shops. He's like, looming over me. And he touches me a lot. Not like, molesting-touchy, but like, instead of just saying my name or tapping me on the shoulder to get my attention, he like, gropes my shoulder. D: Along with following me with my best friend around the Smithsonian and eavesdropping on us talking bout guys and love, mostly me talking about my adorable guy friends from the other schools.

And we go into the bathroom because I'm getting thoroughly freaked out. We take our time and we wash out hand like, 50 times. And I redo all of my hair and stuff. It's been like, 15-20 minutes. And the moment I get near the entrance, I see him. He was like, pacing around the entrance to the women's bathroom like, the entire time.

If I could tell you guys everything he's been doing, your eyes would probably die from all the text. XD

So I need help on what I should do. I mean, I want him to stop stalking me like, now. And I'm really not the type of person to straight out reject him or tell him to stop with the stalking. So I'm considering asking out like, one of my best guy friends (I'll tell him the situation) and hoping he'll give up and move on or something. Eeeee! I really don't know what to do! Help plese?

(I'm really sorry about the massive amount of text. >___<'
springyi
You should confront him. Let him know that what he is doing is bothering you.

If you don't confront him, he'll keep stalking you. If you get a bf, he might still stalk you.

You don't have to flat out reject him, but he might be realizing that what he is doing to you is creeping you out.
すみ☆
Since you don't like confrontation, getting a boyfriend who's fine with confronting him for you, maybe he'll stop.
But that depends on how persistent Danny is...

But I'm not saying get a boyfriend so Danny will lay off...
I hope you have genuine romantic interest in the guy you mentioned, though. xD;
M0NiCAxBO0
Yeah, if you're afraid let one of your friend do it.
I mean if you don't tell him how much it freaks you
out, he'll never stop right? But I think it's better if you
tell him yourself, maybe have a friend aside you, so it's
coming out of your mouth and not somebody else's.
YeHae_OCEAN
Be a woman and confront him, don't be shady by getting a boyfriend for the purpose of "scaring" him away. DON'T let another guy tell him off for you. He's your friend, at least have the courtesy to be honest. He has feelings too, if he can't handle the truth, that's on him. Just do your part by being straight forward.
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